I am 38 and have a boyfriend who lives in another country, and feel attracted to someone else. Help~!?
Question by hearts_masquerade: I am 38 and have a boyfriend who lives in another country, and feel attracted to someone else. Help~!?
There is a problem with this situation for several reasons. First, I met my boyfriend online and we did meet in person, and spent 2 weeks together in his country in the summer. We made plans to get married, but for financial and immigrations reasons it looks as though it’s going to be some time before we can be together permanently, if at all. I try to stay positive, but after knowing just what the personal income requirements are for sponsoring his visa and me having just gotten divorced (ergo I can’t satisfy the income requirements until I have been working x number of weeks making y number of dollars), I am not sanguine about our chances of success. Meanwhile, I work with a man I find myself increasingly attracted to. I believe he feels the same, though we both are too shy and too professional to approach one another at work. I am torn between wanting to quit my job so my attraction for this fellow doesn’t endanger the very deep love I have for my boyfriend, or wanting to approach him and see what happens, because he is nearer to me and part of the same culture. I am very confused right now, and feeling pretty lonely too. As far as this other man goes, I haven’t a clue how to approach him without making things awkward at work. Our employer is like a slave driver who expects to eke every drop of work from us for each penny they pay, and tolerates no down-time or socialization unless it’s management socializing with one another. I would like to see my boyfriend more on webcam so I can feel that closeness to him still, and not be so tempted. But I cannot explain this to him without revealing what is happening inside my heart. He is such a fatalist, if I tell him, he would drop me, thinking it was for my own good. I don’t know anything about that other guy, except I like the way he looks, he is mysterious (thus, compelling), and I find myself having sexual fantasies about him (LOL).
Perhaps should have said ‘man friend’. We are mature adults. My erstwhile fiance is 48, I am 38, and the mystery man is some indeterminate age between I suppose 30 and 40.
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long distance relationships hardly workk soo yeah..
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